Everyone in has experienced the feeling of being overwhelmed. Whether its work, school, friends or emotions, events seem to overwhelm us. Some people deal with being overwhelmed better than others, why? Is it because they are smarter, stronger or have a better support network, No- It’s because they’ve spent more time being overwhelmed.
Here’s the truth- being overwhelmed is not a bad thing. It’s like saying going to the gym is a bad thing because you can’t get stronger by demanding more (overwhelming) from your body. Ridiculous right? Being overwhelmed simply means that you have reached your threshold on how much you can take in at one time. And we now need to condition ourselves to be able to be overwhelmed. Look at your special operations soldier- do you think they get overwhelmed? The answer is no. They have gone through some of the most rigorous training the military has to offer to inoculate themselves against being overwhelmed.
How do we now train ourselves not to allow being overwhelmed affect us? First you need to look at what you believe being overwhelmed means. Do you see it as a bad thing and have it cause stress? Or do you look at being overwhelmed as an opportunity to make improvements. Before you start to manage being overwhelmed, you need to be clear on how it serves you.
Just as a bodybuilder goes to the gym and works out to get stronger, we need to work our emotional muscles. We do this by putting ourselves in stressful or overwhelming situations in everyday life. Yes, you have to get yourself out there and live- you can’t just sit around and read a book about it and hope it gets better. You also can’t do it in the perfect environment because you have too much control over it and face it- that’s not overwhelming.
Here are a couple overwhelming life challenges you can work on:
The point is to get out of your comfort zone and get out there. The more demand you put on yourself the better you can handle anything that comes your way.